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  • Imho it’s perfectly valid to have your goal to be a lifestyle sub 24/7, but you do have to accept the fact that most partners who are willing to lifestyle dom with no breaks are abusers, so you have a very high chance of being unhappy. Good doms who don’t ever need a break are as rare as unicorns, so you’d better have plenty to offer them.

    Then again, a lot of people looking for this kind of relationship on some psychological level want to be abused. It’s a learned helplessness thing. Some people have lost so much of their ability to trust others, they need a partner who acts abusively (or pretends to) so they can let go of that feeling of paranoia that it’s going to get worse. So they can stop looking over their shoulder and waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s not rational, but that’s the kind of person you create when you abuse children. They grow up into adults who don’t know what to do with themselves in a healthy relationship.



  • I looked it up, and CSOs are actually part of the police, which is the first problem. The second problem is they can’t issue fines. I don’t think someone should be arrested for playing loud music on a balcony, I don’t believe that’s a proportional response outside of the most dire circumstances involving severe sensory processing disorders. But I do think they should be fined a certain percentage of their income and assets which increases based on their tax bracket. And I do think that’s a convincing deterrent. “How many grand is that song worth to you? Because if you keep playing it, you’re gonna have to pay up.”


  • CSOs should be able to write tickets for a progressive income fine and/or community service. The problem is all the power to threaten people (financially, physically, or otherwise) is solely in the hands of police. So police still have to do everything. CSOs should have some powers, just not any physically violent powers.



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    6 months ago

    I hate cops, but I like the idea of having someone be responsible for noise complaints. So ideally the government would fund a new “neighbourhood service” who are responsible for resolving domestic squabbles and mental health crises, but don’t have the authority to arrest anyone or carry any kind of weapon. And they would be able to tell people not to blast music in the yard for the express purpose of annoying others.